In Permanent Beta

The Law of the Farm

By June 18, 2017 #inpermanentbeta

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We live in a world that is gov­erned by nat­ural laws, just like gravity–what goes up must come down.  In agri­cul­ture, we can eas­ily see and agree that the nat­ural laws and prin­ci­ples gov­ern the work and deter­mine the har­vest (Covey, 1994).

It’s very sim­ple: we reap what we sow.  If you sow gen­er­ously, you will reap gen­er­ously.  If you sow spar­ingly, you will reap spar­ingly.

The Law of the Farm gov­erns in all are­nas of life.  Think of your rela­tion­ships, your finances, your career, your health and your char­ac­ter.  “Can you ‘cram’ and sud­denly become a per­son of integrity, courage or com­pas­sion (Covey, 1994, p. 55)?”

What about peo­ple who go for the quick-fixes, “lose 20 pounds in 30 days”?  They may suc­ceed in the short run, but most gain all the weight back and some­times more.  Why?  Because they tried to defy the nat­ural laws.  Good health and vital­ity are based on nat­ural prin­ci­ples.

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February 2017 Kick Off

By February 2, 2017 #inpermanentbeta, Simplicity & Minimalism

February 2017 Kick Off

Feb­ru­ary 2017 Kick Off

Dear friends,

Before we can kick off the month of Feb­ru­ary 2017, let us first recap on Jan­u­ary and put it into per­spec­tive.

Per­son­ally, Jan­u­ary wasn’t cat­a­strophic, but it wasn’t great, either. There are some pro­duc­tive steps I took toward my over­all goals. I did two things last month that I had been putting off for a very long time, which is good. The not-so-great: I hit and missed, sev­eral times.

So what now? Do I keep swing­ing? Will I be smarter the sec­ond, third, fourth or fifth time around? The answer is a firm, Yes.
All humans are fal­li­ble; we make mis­takes. We fall and we get back up. That’s what we do.

Know that you need to lose some­times before you can win. We’ve all had our con­fi­dence dented at one time or another.
What I have found that helps is keep­ing a list of all my accom­plish­ments at arms-length, no mat­ter how big or small they are and mak­ing sure I cel­e­brate them.

So what are your inten­tions for this month? The same recy­cled goals can become ran­cid. Change them up; let them embar­rass you a bit.

Once you know what you want (for this month only), develop a guide that is both slow and clear. Have only one small task to do each day. Muster the courage to focus on one goal at a time and fight every urge to move ahead of sched­ule.
If your’e any­thing like me, this will take a lot of effort. If you decide to ignore this warn­ing, it’s very likely that you will have one more goal unfin­ished to add to the “dream” grave­yard.

Think of the story of tor­toise and the hare. The slower you start some­thing, the faster you’ll fin­ish. It is one of life’s great­est mys­ter­ies!

So take one small tiny step toward the sexy beast, but make sure you do so every sin­gle day until you reach your goal and then you can rejoice and start up a new one.

If you hear a voice within you say, ‘you can­not paint,’ then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.” Vin­cent van Gogh

Wish­ing you all a pro­duc­tive, healthy, pros­per­ous and joy­ous month filled with love, pas­sion, and hope.

Xoxo,

Irís Medina-Elston

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Resolving Unfinished Business

By January 26, 2017 #inpermanentbeta
Unfinished Business

Dear friends, do you have unfin­ished busi­ness you need to deal with, but you won’t?

You may be strug­gling with your health, career, or rela­tion­ships. When we allow these to build up, they can be over­whelm­ing.

What’s keep­ing you from deal­ing with them? Is it fear?

Fear leads to doubt and doubt leads to a loss of con­fi­dence.”

Start with one issue at a time.

First, make a list of all the bag­gage that’s weigh­ing you down.

Sec­ond, pri­or­i­tize this list. As you go through your list ask your­self, ” what’s the most impor­tant issue I must tackle now?” What will make the biggest impact on your life and your family’s (because your bag­gage is not only yours)?

Being in denial will not solve any­thing, in fact, it will make mat­ters worse.

When was the last time you went for a rou­tine med­ical checkup?

When was the last time you sat down and had a 1:1 with your finances?

When was the last time you really thought about your most impor­tant rela­tion­ships? How about your career? Are you neglect­ing your duties at home? Are you doing the bare min­i­mum at work?

Con­front one issue at a time head on. Get uncom­fort­able now so that you don’t have to toss and turn and stare at your ceil­ing late at night. We’ve all been there. And I can promise you from expe­ri­ence, you can dig your­self out.

If it’s your career decide what it is that you want. The worst place to be is in limbo. I don’t know about you, but I do not like wishy-washy thoughts. Either you’ll go back to school or you won’t. But don’t be stuck in a “per­haps or ten­ta­tive” mind­set. Be deci­sive. It’s yes or no. Once you decide either way, you’ll imme­di­ately begin to feel bet­ter. I promise you.

So take a deep breath, roll your sleeves up, say a lit­tle prayer and do one thing about the mon­key on your back today.

You don’t have to solve the whole issue today, just take one step towards it. Look it dead in the eye and let it know it will no longer own you.

Wish­ing you all a fab­u­lous Thurs­day!

Xoxo — Irís

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Set Boundaries.

By September 11, 2016 #inpermanentbeta, Simplicity & Minimalism
Set Boundaries.

If you want peo­ple to know where you draw the line, then you need to learn to set bound­aries.  With­out bound­aries, rela­tion­ships in busi­ness and in our per­sonal lives can­not func­tion well.

Forc­ing peo­ple to make their prob­lems our own is a sub­tle form of manip­u­la­tion.  I do not want to dis­cour­age any­one from help­ing oth­ers, but I am say­ing that we should try not to rob peo­ple of their prob­lems.

Accord­ing to Greg McK­e­own, author of Essen­tial­ism, “We should serve, and love and make a dif­fer­ence in the lives of oth­ers, of course.  But when we make their prob­lem our prob­lem, we aren’t help­ing them; we are enabling them.  Once we take their prob­lem from them, all we are doing is tak­ing their abil­ity to solve it.”

So when you find your­self wor­ry­ing, fret­ting and exert­ing your ener­gies to keep “them” going, as it turns out, they no longer have the prob­lem because you have taken it from them and made it yours.

Forc­ing peo­ple to solve their own prob­lems is equally ben­e­fi­cial for you and for them.”

Bound­aries are Essen­tial

Demar­cate what’s off lim­its and do so in advance.  Money and time should be equally impor­tant.  Don’t let any­one take either for their sole ben­e­fit.  This is true in every area of life, includ­ing and spe­cially in our jobs.

What would your boss say if you brought your chil­dren to work on Mon­day or any day of the week that you are required to work?  Think about this for a moment.

If you can’t bring your chil­dren to work on Mon­day, then why should you be expected to bring work home with you on a Sat­ur­day or Sun­day?

No is a com­plete sen­tence.” Anne Lam­ott

Set Bound­aries.  Set them Early.

For bound­aries are, “a lit­tle like walls in a sand­cas­tle, the sec­ond we let one fall over, the rest of them come crash­ing down.”

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Design Your Life

By August 17, 2016 #inpermanentbeta

DesignYourLifeGood day, amaz­ing and won­der­ful human beings.  I’m so excited about today’s blog post, I could hardly wait to share.

Here’s a secret, we all want to be happy.  We all want love.  We all want to feel impor­tant.  We all want to live mean­ing­ful lives.

Deep down, we want to be accepted–we want to be liked.  We want to live a life that’s ful­fill­ing. We want to feel good about our­selves, our con­tri­bu­tions and our unique­ness.

We are one of a kind.  You, me, your neighbor–we are all unique. There isn’t any­one out there who is exactly like you.  God does not make mis­takes.  You were born good enough.  You are enough.  Period.

God is pre­cise and quite cal­cu­lated.  He wants the very best for you, even if at times we feel for­saken.  He gave us broth­ers and sis­ters, neigh­bors and col­leagues so that we could lean on each other, help one another.

I invite you, beau­ti­ful peo­ple, to design a life exactly as you want it to be.  The pos­si­bil­i­ties are end­less, dear friends.   What is it that you want in every area of your life?

Here are some cat­e­gories that are impor­tant for many peo­ple.  Think about the fol­low­ing as it per­tains to your life and write one thing you want to accom­plish in each area:

  1.  God, Reli­gion, Spir­i­tu­al­ity
  2.  Fam­ily
  3.  Career
  4.  Per­sonal
  5.  Finan­cial
  6.  Phil­an­thropy & Giv­ing

Money is impor­tant because it can buy expe­ri­ences, but fam­ily, our health, and most impor­tant feel­ing ful­filled is the surest way to bring hap­pi­ness into our lives.  And isn’t that a uni­ver­sal desire…to be happy?

Start now.  Design a life that will make you feel won­der­ful.  Find hon­est work that you are both excited and eager to get to.  I promise, it exists!  Start with one area at a time. Develop rou­tines so that you can free up your poor, over­worked and over­loaded brain.  Focus only on a very few things at a time.

Time is going to pass any­way, why not spend it your way?  You can have it your way. Stick around and I’ll show you how.

As always, thank you for read­ing.  Don’t for­get to sub­scribe, fol­low me on Face­book & Twit­ter, and share with your friends.

Xoxo,

Irís

 

 

 

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